Hello, BJ.
Your kitchen sink generates lots of waste water and needs to be routed to your septic tank. Reasonable amounts of soaps should not be a problem for a properly sized septic tank. It is designed to accept this stuff! Don’t, however, use anti-bacterial soaps. Some contain an anti-bacterial agent that will not bio-degrade in your septic tank

– Don’t do it.
How did your sink end up getting routed somewhere separate from the rest of the home’s waste water? Let’s take a look at two different scenarios.
1 - The kitchen was a part of a house addition – and probably on a slab. The person plumbing the new sink said, “Gee, this is going to be really hard to connect this to the main house sewer, let’s just run it out and connect a tile (drain pipe) in the yard.”
2 - Whoever originally installed the plumbing decided that it was not necessary for the sink water to go to the septic tank. They thought it would be better to run it to a tile instead.
Instead of a tile (that runs off property), they may have installed a
Dry Well or small absorption field not far from the house. The septic installer is long gone and there are no records of this mini-system. When these absorption fields fail, one or two fixtures (or bathrooms) in the house back-up, leaving people wondering what happened.
If you really want to know, you will need to do some exploratory digging in the yard.
Do whatever you can to re-route the kitchen water to the rest of the house plumbing. You may need to utilize a small ejector pump/pit.
Questions:
Where does the rest of the kitchen water go?
How about the laundry water? Does it mix with the foundation water in the basement? If so, these will also need to be separated.